We see them all around us – business women, homeschool moms and moms who manage to maintain both their career and their family life, single moms, the kind of women that don’t let society define them, tell them what they can and cannot do, and where their place is; the kind of women that know what they want in life and will do everything in their power to get it. We all look up to them and need them to be the leaders they are, but if you’re a woman – why not be like them? If you’d like to learn what it takes to be a superwoman, here are a couple of things you should keep in mind.
Focus on what you want
The first step towards becoming a superwoman is figuring out what you want to do in life and who you want to be ten years from now. Forget about other people’s expectations of you, it’s your life and you’re the only one who should have a say in how you’re going to live it. Of course, it can be difficult if you find yourself showered with negative comments and without much support, but keep in mind that, at the end of the day, your happiness depends on your actions alone. Nobody is going to fight your battles for you, so surround yourself with positive people who believe in you and ignore those who only want to put you down.
We all have a different definition of success, whether it is focusing on being a stay at home or homeschool mom, building a career, or some other personal pursuit of happiness. Find your passion and dedicate yourself to it; when you’re doing something out of love, it becomes a lot easier to stay motivated and persistent.
Face your fears
Superwomen are not afraid of their fears – they face them head-on. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to ignore them, as you’ll just end up being even more afraid and anxious. Plus, trying to control your fears can even increase the chance of them coming true.
So, instead of stressing about it, accept the fact that you are afraid, and try to find the reasons behind your fears. Conquering them becomes easier once you know why they are present in the first place. Plus, every fear you conquer will make the next one much easier to face, so don’t hesitate to step out of your comfort zone as often as you can.
Have realistic expectations
There’s nothing wrong with aiming high, as long as you’re being realistic about your own capabilities. Moreover, sometimes you can feel much more motivated and relaxed if you let go of certain, less important goals in order to focus on the more important ones. For instance, if you want to get into Harvard University, you probably already know that it is possible only through hard work, lots of studying, and gathering as much info as you can about the whole process of admission. In that case, it would be perfectly okay to set some things aside until you reach this more important goal.
Moreover, be mindful of your expectations of yourself. Constantly aiming for perfection can only lead to extreme pressure and stress, and successful women know that they can’t do everything equally well all the time. Accept yourself with all your strong and weak points, and you’ll be able to see where you can excel as well as where you could use some improvement.
Have the right attitude
Anything is possible if you put your mind to it, so try to keep a positive attitude and always believe in yourself. Being confident and believing in your own success is an essential part of achieving it. Furthermore, don’t get discouraged if you fail – failing occasionally is an inevitable part of the whole process, and the best thing you can do about it is pick yourself up and learn from the mistakes you’ve made.
Also, as every woman who wants to be a leader knows, there will be conflicts with people who dislike your ambition. Don’t be afraid of such conflicts. Not all of them are aggressive and disrespectful – conflicts come in many forms and once you learn how to recognize them, you’ll have a much easier time responding to them properly.
Don’t forget to relax
The path towards success is a long and exhausting one, so don’t feel guilty about taking a break from time to time. If you push yourself too hard for too long, you are very likely to start losing focus and energy – and things can only go down from there. In other words, things are more likely to fall apart if you push yourself to the point of burnout. It is important to learn to embrace silence and give yourself some time off to recharge your batteries.
It’s okay to rest when you feel the need to, and don’t ever beat yourself up over not performing in a certain way. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and becoming a superwoman is a long process that will definitely exhaust you more than once, so go easy on both your body and your mind.
Being a superwoman in the modern society is a challenge worthy of the effort it takes. So, believe in yourself, learn how to use your time wisely, don’t get discouraged by negative comments, and there will be nothing and nobody standing in your way to becoming a superwoman.
Isabel F. William is a consultant and lover of literature and philosophy.
She believes that sometimes it is just enough to enjoy a really good book, smooth jazz and a cup of coffee to travel somewhere else.