Being a Mom of Boys can be tough. Boys can zap your energy and try your patience. They will rough house and be loud and leave behind a minefield of Legos in every room. They will get dirty, they will not hesitate to share their bodily functions or talk about their bodily functions. They will want to sword fight and wrestle and throw all the pillows and blankets (that you just picked up) on the floor to build a fort. But they will also give the best bear hugs, and dress up as super heroes and knights and insist on rescuing you, the beautiful princess. They will pick you flowers and defend your honor and make you feel like the most beautiful and precious person alive.
Yes, raising boys is very different than raising girls (seriously, I think they are truly from different planets sometimes) but I have come to realize a few very important things in my own journey so far as Mom to a quickly growing little man.
1. HIS MOM IS HIS FIRST LOVE
Just as you will fall madly in love with your little bundle of never ending energy, he will also fall madly in love with you (in the healthiest possible way). You are HIS mom to love and protect and honor and fight for. Little boys learn how to love and care for women first and foremost from their moms. They also learn how to be loved by women from their moms!
2. HIS MOM IS HIS FEMALE PROTOTYPE
A boy’s mom will teach him what it means to be a woman and the expectations that women will have of him as a man. Is he being taught from an early age to be a gentleman and that it is not a courtesy for a man to treat a woman with respect, but it is expected? As his mom, are you demanding that he treat you well, that he treat everyone well? A mom who models self-respect, kindness, discipline and emotional health for her son is creating a healthy blueprint for the type of partner he will seek out later.
3. HIS MOM TEACHES HIM WHAT HE IS WORTH
While a boy’s mom is not the only person in his life who instills a sense of identity in him, but she plays a very important role! Are you setting up clear boundaries with your son from an early age, creating a safe environment from which to discover the world and himself? Boundaries are so important for our children as they give them clear expectations and limitations. Boundaries and loving discipline help children build self-confidence and teach them responsibility and accountability. In addition to setting healthy boundaries, are you creating an environment of unconditional love and acceptance? Does your son know that he is precious no matter what?
Raising good men is a wonderful and honorable job to be gifted. Parenting is just hard sometimes and can sometimes be an overwhelming responsibility whether you are raising girls or boys. Shaping men who are gentle and kind, who treat women and children well, is such an important role for us Mom’s of Boys. Raising men who will become devoted husbands and loving fathers, and all around good people, is an amazing opportunity and we are strong Momma’s who are up to the task!
What are some of the lessons you have learned as a Mom of Boys?
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