As I was on my way to pick my kids up from school today, I heard an interesting discussion over the radio. The radio D.J. was asking listeners what their thoughts were on anger. Apparently a new study was released claiming that the year 2014 goes on record as being one of the “angriest” years in recent history.
Although I am not quite sure how one goes about determining such things and I admit I have not researched the article… at all. But the article is not the issue, the issue is the discussion that stemmed from the announcement of the article on the radio station.
In response to the question of what the listeners opinion of anger was, one woman called in and stated, basically, that anger itself is not a bad thing and it is in fact a natural emotion. We all feel anger in certain circumstances and those feelings cannot be helped. The danger with anger comes, not from the emotion itself- because feeling anger is not a bad thing, but in the way we choose to act in regards to our feelings of anger.
I found myself nodding my head and agreeing with her as I credited her for a valid and well-presented argument. And then the show’s host responded with his own opinion which was that while her points were valid and seemed immersed in common sense, he had to disagree based on the fundamental nature of anger itself. His argument was that in fact, though anger is a natural emotion and we all feel anger, it is not a good thing and it is not an “okay emotion” that we should in any way allow into our lives for any period of time even if we never choose to act on the emotion. He argued instead, that we are to acknowledge the catalyst to our anger, as it is often sparked in response to an injustice or an act against morality, and then get rid of the negative emotion as quickly as possible. Taking a stand against the things that cause us to experience anger is an often just and noble cause, but one that can not be enacted until the anger has been dealt with and perspective has been reestablished through a sense of calm evaluation. Anger is an unhealthy and unproductive emotion that serves only to cloud our judgment. It is not enough to simply learn to control our actions in the midst of our anger but to refuse to harbor the emotion of anger itself all together.
What do you think? Would you agree that anger is fundamentally bad and should be dealt with and purged as soon as possible or do you have a different opinion? Share your thoughts; I am eager to hear them! Join the discussion on Twitter via #SDECHATS.