Happy Tuesday Morning!
Self love. A very uncomfortable subject for most, if not all of us. It is so easy to criticize ourselves, the way we look, the way we dress, the color or shine of our hair, the clearness of our skin, the presence of wrinkles or bags or jowls or age spots. The color of our skin, the status of our popularity in school or at work or on social media. These have become the measure of who we are and what we are worth! It sounds ridiculous when it is put into words, but REALLY- this has become our measuring stick of self worth! And it is ludicrous. But even as most of us agree with this statement and the insanity of this reality, how do we move past it? It starts with you, it starts with me. I am only responsible for ME, for my life, for the decisions that I make and for the stand that I take. I can’t control the decisions that those around me make. All I can do is live my life in such a way that when I stand in front of the mirror I recognize who is staring back at me and I can be proud of who she is. When my head hits the pillow at night and I look back on the impression I have made and the legacy I am creating, I am at peace with myself and have no regrets. I can rest knowing that I am on the path to who I want to be and I am impacting the lives around me, not by the words I am shouting or the demands that I am making but by the life they are watching me live, the decisions they are watching me make, the person I am when I think no one is looking. I can choose to be a woman of substance, a woman of integrity, a woman of value. I can choose to be a woman whose self worth does not come from what I look like or what color my skin is or how shiny my hair is or whether or not I have wrinkles or cellulite or blemishes. It is not determined by the car I drive or the house I live in or how many followers I have on Twitter. I am amazing because I AM ME and everything that comes with that (and everything that does not). You are amazing because YOU ARE YOU!
This week I challenge you to stand in front of the mirror and practice a bit of self affirmation. In the same way, I challenge you to refrain from allowing any self criticism. You are not perfect. You may very well have thick thighs or frizzy hair or wrinkles. Those things are not WHO you are and they in no way define you. Remind yourself of that every day. Learn to look past your “flaws” and even to embrace them as beauty. Own every part of yourself and take responsibility for the things you can control (self improvement is a good thing) but let go of the things you can’t control and understand that those things are a part of you and the beauty that is you, but they do not define you unless you let them.
When you have a few minutes, check out these two videos. The first is from super model Cameron Russell, whose insight is so incredible and what she has to say from the perspective of someone within the industry that so often defines beauty is perfect. The second is from plus size super model Ashley Graham. Her story is inspiring and her wisdom, resolve and belief in herself are incredible.
Super Model CAMERON RUSSELL:
Plus Size Super Model ASHLEY GRAHAM:
<< CHALLENGE >>
I challenge you to find 3 things about your reflection that you would normally criticize and instead turn them into affirmations. It’s tough, but let’s do it anyway, because we are awesome. Now write this on your mirror and read it out loud! 🙂
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